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The realm of Being (A) is associated with the first two years of life
(preoedipal:pre-verbal) hence preconscious at best and probably mainly unconscious
experience. According to Spitz, Kohut et.al the first two years, particularly the
first, is crucial to the development of a cohesive self.
In order to grow a cohesive self structure, the child has to learn how to bear
increasing dosages of frustration and other so called negative affects. Among these
negative affects are: anxiety, depression, ambiguity, confusion, ambivalence, not
knowing, uncertainty, increasing complexity and the like.
Tolerating increasing dosages of frustration leads to the automatic
development of a cohesive self. Failure to begin to process the
capacity to tolerate frustration means that the chronologically
advancing child is devoid of the psychological prerequisites for
spontaneously growing a cohesive self. This results in a chronological
grownup, but who at the time, is psychologically unable to regulate his
self-esteem. This problem has crucial implications for the quality of
life for people suffering from this difficulty.
Those who are unable to regulate their self-esteem (irrespective of
intelligence and drive) are utterly dependent upon the object world
to regulate their self-esteem for them. To the preoedipal child
(under 3 years old) the object world functions as a reflecting mirror.
Thus, their self-esteem rises or falls in direct proportion to the degree to
which they experience a harmonious connection to the projected authority(s)
of the moment. If perceived worthy by the projected authority(s) of the moment,
they will correspondingly feel all is right with themselves and the world;
whereas, if perceived as disapproved of, they will feel depressed sometimes
to the point of feeling crushed by an internalized negative judgment of
unworthiness. In the grips of perceived negative feedback they often experience
themselves as if they were to suddenly plummet into a deep hole and lose
whatever hard won identity they have been able to muster.
Successfully negotiating the developmental task leading to the spontaneous
growth and development of a cohesive self is a two step process technically
referred to as (1) object constancy leading to (2) self constancy.
It is in the realm of being that the central issues of object and self constancy
must be initiated and worked through as necessary conditions for a cohesive self
to form and to develop. An explanation of object and self constancy follows.
Overview of Object and Self Constancy:
Children are under the sway of the pleasure principle. That is, they want
what they want when they want it and brook no frustration. When the mother's
response matches the child's desire, the child experiences a state of blissful
at-one-ment with the 'good' mother. This state of being is, of course, ideally
desirable but doomed to inevitable a periodic disruptions, as no 'mother' can
be quite so perfectly understanding all the time.
When the imperfect authority figure (usually the mother) inevitably fails
to provide the expected 'perfect' response, her child experiences the missed
expectation {disappointment} with frustration and anger. The child now
experiences the same angelic good mother of the recent past as presently
frustratingly withholding, pain inducing and therefore bad. It is normal
for the disappointed child to turn his derived fury against the frustrating
'object' usually in the form of actively hating and or rejecting the
perceived 'bad' parent.
Object constancy is the capacity of a person to experience the
frustratingly 'withholding' object as bad, hated, and 'killed off';
yet, somehow, at the same time, managing to tolerate the destructive
negative affect enough to be able to repair the broken circuit, thus
emotionally reconnecting with the frustrating but loved parental object.
Self constancy refers to the same situation, except that the person
who falls short of his expectations of himself is able to be disappointed
without "completely" destroying himself (psychic or literal suicide),
keeping solid, and maintaining focus and fortitude.
Thus the realm of being is primarily concerned with growing and preserving the
integrity of the self structure. The 'job" of the baby is just to be - required
only to be given to in the form of recognition, validation, and unconditional
acceptance. In the countless small but, cumulative daily disappointments
(frustrations) of normal living, the developing child hopefully learns how to
experience a missed expectation (disappointment) as only a disappointment and
not as a sign that the end of his world (complete destruction of loving feelings
towards his main connections or to himself) has actually come about.
Successfully negotiating the tasks of object and self constancy leads
directly to the growth and development of a cohesive self. An operational
definition of a cohesive self is the capacity of a disappointed person to
experience internal and external cohesion while still remaining solid at
the core. Attaining self constancy is a necessary condition to enable the
developing child to move from overreacting to glitches (as like a paramecium
might react to a live 'wire) to being able to reflect upon them in a balanced,
even manner. A person, in this state, is able to shift from automatically
reacting to acting from within).
Summary
The psychological process of self-esteem regulation has been highlighted. This process
starts with newborns reacting automatically and emotionally to internal and external
stimuli which frustrate them. As they gradually learn how to bear increasing dosages
of 'negative' affect (including frustration, anxiety, depression, ambiguity, confusion
etc.) they learn to delay, and think through problems so as to be able to make
increasingly more effective problem solving choices. Towards this end, attaining
self-constancy is a necessary condition to enable the developing child to move from
simply reacting to glitches (as like a paramecium might react to a live wire) to being
able to reflect upon them.
Now, finally, we come to the relevance of this discussion to the topic of meaningful
coincidences. The development of a cohesive self, by learning to bear increasing
dosages of frustration leading to object constancy and then self constancy is, I
believe, the core psychological process involved in what speculative philosophers
are describing when they refer to a human being's need to order their personal chaos.
The psychological progression from automatically reacting to being able to act from
within is, I believe, a statement about the existence and development of consciousness.
In this light there is, then, a necessary connection between the attained level of
psychological development and the degree of attained development of an individual's
consciousness.
This means that if a person has failed to negotiate the tasks of either
object constancy and / or self constancy, attempts by them to order their
personal chaos will be necessarily filtered through the predominance of
that state of being associated with the attained level of incomplete self
development. Thus it is not coincidental that in the analyses of adults
who are seen to be fixated (developmentally stuck) in the stage of preoedipal
development, to observe them predictably preoccupied with fusion wishes and
fantasies echoing the theme and variation of continuously needing and searching
for uninterrupted at-one-ment (fusion) experiences.
Thus reported psychological conflicts centering on derailed dialogues, and
attempts to mend broken relationships, (either with the object world or with
the self), are the norm. Additionally, such people are very concerned with
issues of essences and ultimates expressed as a preoccupation with binary
opposites including those of keeping the faith/faithlessness; trust/mistrust;
hope/hopelessness; persistence/collapsing; cathecting meaningful relationships vs.
cynically throwing cold water on even the idea of having, let alone sustaining
meaningful connections.
Additional Developmental Layers
The preoedipal (preverbal) level of psychological development has been
further subdivided by M.Klein, who first named and described the depressive
position, (2nd quarter of the first year). Klein, Winnicott et.al. adding
the even more primitive position named the paranoid-schizoid mode (first
quarter of the first year). And the most primitive organization of
experience beginning with birth: the autistic-contiguous mode (Bick,
Meltzer, Tustin, Bion, and synthesized by Ogden).
The Depressive Mode
Allows the person to symbolize reality allowing "one
to experience oneself as a person thinking one's thought and feelings one's feelings.
In this way, thoughts and feelings are experienced to a large degree as personal
creations that can be understood (interpreted)." (Ogden, The Primitive Edge, 1989.)
Paranoid-Schizoid Mode
Whereas the depressive position ''operates
predominantly in the service of containment of experience, including psychological
pain, the paranoid-schizoid mode is more evenly divided between efforts at managing
psychic pain and efforts at the evacuation of pain through the defensive use of
omnipotent thinking, denial, and the creation of discontinuities of experience.''
(Ogden, 1989) In this mode there is no space between the symbol and what is symbolized, experience is taken as concrete. That is what appears to be is all there is. Thinking is two dimensional. (Ogden, 1989) There is no experience of choice only a sense of being at the mercy of forces (internal or external) that are beyond one's control.
The Autistic-Contiguous Mode:
is a sensory dominated mode of generating experiences which is essentially dominated
by "a relationship of shape to the feeling of enclosure, of beat to the feeling of
rhythm, of hardness to the feeling of edginess.... There is practically no sense of
inside and outside or self and other: rather, what is important is the pattern,
boundedness, shape, rhythm, texture, hardness, softness, warmth, coldness, and so
on... It is the ''sensory floor'' of experience. (Ogden, 1989)
Filters Of Experience:
It is suggested that each of the above modes of experiencing
(individually and collectively) be viewed as filters through
which the raw data of experience is selected and organized.
In this perspective, each mode, singularly and in combination,
has its own conscious and unconscious organizing concepts which
may be expected to filter the raw data of experience in predictable
ways. If this idea be extended to attempts to understand the nature
and function of consciousness, it is hypothesized that consciousness
is actively dynamic (not static) and ranges from an unfifferentiated
sensory base, gradually to quickly, expanding into ever increasing
states of awakeness and awareness. The penultimate state of awake and
aware might be thought of as consciousness of consciousness.
Filters of Experience and Primary Process: Time and Space
With respect to the way in which connections are made, evidence indicates
that it is done so by means of primary process linkages. Primary process
logic is akin to the Salvador Dali painting: Time Bending. In this painting
there is seen a large pocket watch that seems to have melted and thus would
be incapable of functioning; yet, at the same time, there is the sense
that somehow it is still able to do so despite apparent linear logical impossibility.
Considering time and space, (the mediums in which cause and effect are
conceptualized) there is a radical departure from conventional scientific
causality. For the baby there is no such reality as a sense of time.
There is, instead, a sense of timelessness, no clock time, no awareness
of a past, present and/or future, but in its place only play or vacation
time. There is also no sense of clear boundaries as for example; being
able to distinguish internal from external reality (differentiating all
that is in the body 'me' from all that is outside the body 'not me' )
but rather, is a sense of fusion particularly with the primary mother.
(In an important experiment at New York University it was concluded that
the core concept dominating the inferred unconscious of the year one baby
is "My Mother and I are One"). (L.Silverman). In the light of these
findings it seems fruitful to refer to this realm of preoedipal experience
as durational consciousness.
Oedipal/Linear Consciousness (three-seven years)
The oedipal mode of consciousness organizes chaos utilizing the
organizing concepts (psychic filters) of linear time, and bounded
space. {conventional causality} The language used to express cause
and effect linkages is often characterized as scientific, rational,
objective, (exclusively of the intellect). The logic of this form
of consciousness is governed by laws of secondary process. Time
is thought of as clock time with a clear sense of past, present,
and future. Space is clearly demarcated as defining and limiting
one object from another as in the differentiation of inside from
outside. Preoedipal consciousness is characterized by unmediated
linkages (s-r) reactive responses to stimuli; whereas oedipal
consciousness is characterized by the beginnings of mediated
(s-o-r-) reflective linkages.
Oedipal consciousness is also associated with the realm of doing as
differentiated from the preoedipal realm of being. In this realm of
consciousness desires converted into ideas are now galvanized into
proactivity towards the attainment of a desired goal.
Thus passive wishes of the preoedipal state (give me) is converted
into active intentionality in the doing oedipal stage of
consciousness. (Bear in mind that the categories of being and
doing, are not absolutely black and white distinctions but are
better thought of as a continuum.
Summary: Implications of Alternative State Of Consciousness
(Pre-Oedipal: Oedipal Being-Oedipal Doing)
In a given individual at any one time (past the age of two? years) there exists not
one consciousness (linear) rather two (linear and durational) expressed in the form
of two distinct logical processes. One process is usually more predominant than the
other. Additionally, these two logics may either be independent of each other or more
or less overlapping. An overlapping (blending) of consciousness a: (durational), and
consciousness b: (linear), results in a synthetic or tertiary consciousness having
its own unique stamp and coloration when placed upon the raw data of experience. It
is conjectured that meaningful coincidences are an external manifestation of an
overlapping of durational and linear consciousness.
Fertile Conditions For The Appearance Of Synchronisitic Phenomena
Research has established that synchronisitic phenomena are
intimately associated with attempts to resolve psychological
problems. What has not been done is an analysis of the
specific nature of the problems associated with the production
of synchronistic phenomena. Following is an attempt to do so.
The first issue is to be clear about the nature of a
psychological problem. Psychological problems are experienced
when a person either (a) tries to initiate or sustain
some activity (mental or physical) but is thwarted; or (1))
tries to stop some ongoing activity but is thwarted. In other
terms, psychological problems are operationally defined as
the inability to continue smooth functioning in either state
of positive or negative inertia having encountered a discontinuity
(stuck point, glitch) in experience.
In a problem solving model of learning, it is assumed that
people prefer a state of balance (homeostasis) to imbalance.
When the balance is markedly upset, a need is generated for
redressing the grievance (process of adaptation). Providing
a person has access to thinking through a problem, there will
be an attempt to assimilate an answer searching for relevant
past experience to be used as a model for current problem
solving. This is equivalent to pouring new wine into old
bottles = taking the substance of the present problem and
fitting it into a familiar structure for the purposes of
applying what was learned from the past to solve the present
problem).
When assimilation fails to work, as when the present presents a unique challenge to
the person in question, there then is a need for a creative solution (an accommodation).
(New wine is put into a new bottle = taking the substance of the present problem and
fitting it into a new structure = a creative solution.)
In this light it is interesting to examine the consciousness
of pre-synchronistically prone individuals.
NOTE: The following examples of synchronicities and the
contexts in which they are embedded are culled from detailed
session notes of some patients receiving psychoanalytic
psychotherapy.
Contextual Analyses of Meaningful Coincidences
The quality of the psychological stuckness or grid lock is
dependent upon the attained level of the psychological development
of a given individual. If the grid lock occurs in a person who is
stuck in a preoedipal developmental stage years one and two), the
experience of dead lock will be one of fundamental
physical/psychological survival - (preservation of being).
Whereas, if the point of stuckness is experienced by an individual
at a higher level of psychological development, the stuckness will
be characterized by issues of intentionality, focusing, initiating,
executing, and following through - giving ideas substance -
(issues of doing).
(a) A representative example of presynchronistic consciousness of a patient
stuck in the pre-oedipal stage of psychic development
In her present state of consciousness C feels as if she is
in touch with what is real but is unable to sustain it. Thus she
often finds himself shifting from clarity to confusion, turning 180
degrees in an instant. "It is one thing to have the courage of my
conviction when I am in my right mind; but what do I do when I
experience myself as mindless?" when in a state of mindlessness,
she feels as if there is nothing, she is nothing. At such points,
unable to access her own will, her frustration turns to rage, which
is turned back onto herself eventually converting to panic anxiety,
unbearable tension, and culminating in explosive hysteria.
(Note the sense of desperation, feeling utterly stuck in the psychic
state of the moment, unable to utilize any of her powers to free
herself of overwhelming 'negative' ego states. She feels as if she
is in the grips of external and internal forces that are beyond her
control.)
C details vivid memories of childhood when she was subjected
to extreme physical and psychological abuse. Whatever she did resulted
in stinging criticism. To survive she had to deny her own sense of
reality pretending that decidedly abnormal conditions were normal.
"All roads led to bad, mad, sad, ineffectualness."
All she wanted to do was to curl up in a ball and go to sleep but
that was dangerous as well. Eventually this nonstop suppression of
her natural self eroded her spirit causing a wide splits in her
sense of self and a de-vitalization of spirit at her core. (I noted
that at this time she was beginning to experience that which
heretofore she had only been partially aware.)
It was now clearly established that it was difficult for C
to confront distasteful external realities. Thus, when feeling put
upon, disappointed or angry at some other person's attitude or
behavior toward her, she denied their part; instead, feeling as
if she is somehow to be blamed for creating a conflict. To survive
she blocks out, denies, dissociates her ever present horror story,
coupled with a confusion of perpetual uncertainty as to what she
is responsible for, from that which is independent of herself.
In this context, it should come as no surprise that she has had
a learning deficit all of her life, selectively unable to concentrate.
"If I am lucky I will get caught up in the magic of the day by erasing
'the horror' until that time comes back again."
At a point during the session the researcher mentioned the fact
that when Jung was three years old, his mother was committed to an
asylum which left his father bitter. (Thus the founder of
synchronicities has an intimate, traumatic) connection with the
years: 2 and three 3.)
C's Synchronicity:
As soon as I mentioned the numbers 2 and 3, C immediately
related a dream of the previous night. She is in a room. Someone
comes in and gives her the numbers 238 or 328. One of these
combinations is supposed to be G's room (G = her
therapist) who C tries to get to despite many obstacles.
She says she feels like a small girl and has to reach up high and
touch them to figure out which number is which. She has a clear
mission to get to G. But on the way, she encounters many
difficulties (these are both real and of her own construction for
the purposes of the dream). I associate to myself that she
is talking about always feeling in between: one half in and one half
out. C is wedged between being born and dying; to be or not
to be; dead and/or alive; between her mother/father; between her
parents/and herself; between the unconscious wish to be dependent
and her dread and self hatred of it; between her wish to be
autonomous and her fears she will be discovered as a fraud and so
on in all areas of her life. She seems caught in a psychological
cleft stick of seemingly unresolveable binary black/white, all or
nothing-dead locks. She easily gets short circuited, drained of all
of her libido, feeling utterly stuck, trapped, zero pointed,
devitalized at the core; nothing solid, either external or internal
to hang on to; stuck between pre-oedipal consciousness and oedipal
consciousness.
In the dream her friend is taking her around a mall. C drifts
into a shop and sees an intricate little mechanical pig. It is amazing
but frightening. It comes alive, opens up and splits apart. She wants
to send it to a child, so she hands the salesperson $20.00 expecting
change. Instead of the change she gets back a book of coupons worth
$50.00. She is outraged wanting her money not the coupons. Once again
C is frustrated beyond belief. Then she realizes she is late
for her appointment with G. It is now 1:30 and the session was
scheduled for 10:00. She panics. She goes to an office and asks for
help to locate G.
This is when they give her the numbers 238 or 328. Her friend wants
to go down the escalator, but C needs to go to see G in a
different direction. She is stymied but instead of feeling hopelessly
caught in the horns of a dilemma, she uncharacteristically chooses
to take a position, spontaneously saying to herself,''the hell with her
I'll meet up with her later.'' She then goes down a long tunnel
confronting additional obstacles along the way to finally get to G.
Post Script to C's Synchronicity
I wonder if she is talking about her experience of rapprochement
at 2-1/2? Something always went wrong. She is cheated, or dismissed,
or brushed off or ignored. All of this makes her feel crazy and stirs
up hysteria. She grew to hate normal conflict and would easily short
circuit at even the hint of it. What would and should be a relatively
innocuous problem for most people, for C has turned out to be
a matter of life and death stirring up seemingly unresolveable internal
and external conflicts. In an instant her whole physical and
psychological systems can freeze up, which she experiences as a
no choice, no exit, terrorizing state of affairs. In such states
(frequently stirred up) she feels ''trapped for life.''
At the very instant she chose to go her own way leaving her friend
on the escalator, C believes that all might be lost because
of her choice to go her own way. But uncharacteristically, C
let her desire to see G override her intense separation anxiety
and fear of abandonment.
She appeared to make a true autonomous choice despite anticipated
dangers. This uncharacteristic action was interpreted to be a significant
development. It is known that a novel act in a dream usually means
that the person is capable of doing the same act when conscious; but,
awareness of the fact is initially in a preconscious state. When
awakened from the dream, the change in attitude had yet to be
experienced consciously.
C associated more to the dream, ''Obstacles every step of
the way...{always} experiencing ultimate frustration.'' (Perhaps
here is a key:) To survive, she has had to endure whatever
frustrations she encounters or else she dies. 'No way out
''I have no where to go... no other purpose--I don't know where I
came from or where I am to go.''
It truly seemed to C that she was not born of this earth;
rather, that she was a deposited alien who has no earthly history,
nor shares in any of its rewards and purposes. Living in a foreign
world her existence is almost completely devoid of meaningful
connectedness and pleasurable significance. (This is how she felt
as a child and by force of negative aversive conditioning this same
feeling of estrangement has persisted until this day).
C feels that what is left is nothing and concludes that
''it's all my fault''. I indicated that her 'nothing' is filled
with terror, guilt, rage and the like. ''I have no mind - and all
is lost.''
This statement is the quintessence of despair, one short step
from suicide. As all attempts to find herself were thwarted at
every turn - totally blocked - all she could anticipate for certain
was predictable frustration. As a result of suppression and then
repression of her natural self she gave up expecting to have
any faith, trust, hope, love, significance, libido, meaning.
Thus a life devoid of meaningful connectedness has culminated
in a sense of utter futility and cynicism that is dramatically
expressed in the form of a repetitive organizing question she
often asks himself: ''Why hope?, why get out of bed?''
Her experience that both her inside reality and external reality are
'nothing' (no-thing-ness - without substance} being the major symptom
of her central problem, the cure then, is to fill the insignificant
nothing with a significant something. In this light she suffers from
an impoverishment of spirit needing an effective' spiritual psychology'
equivalent to cure her.
In a paper called
The Psychodynamics of Spirituality,
the researcher locates the psychological origins of spirituality
in the year one experience of the new born child. This is the area
that is central for the baby to either obtain or failing to obtain
a cathexis with basic trust, faith, hope, love, the capacity to
persist and the beginnings of making meaningful connections with
the object world.
A child begins cathects these vital experiences to the degree to
which he/she is unconditionally accepted, i.e., loved without strings
attached. Thus the 'job' of the baby is essentially passive-that is,
to be loved. If the child experiences enough love he/she will
spontaneously grow a cohesive self structure (solid identity.)
Failure to experience enough love obviates the natural growth and
development of a cohesive self.
C concluded the session saying: ''I can't pursue my own mind - my own goals
{an autonomous self}, one who can take pleasure in his own choices.'' G
replied: ''yes and there you have why you came into treatment, why you stay,
and what you want to accomplish.''
C notes: ''If cumulous clouds of terror weren't bad enough
there is also intense guilt for being late.'' She associates to
the dream.'' I am older now. Three years old then jumps to 15 or
16 years old. A variation on the same theme. I feel unequal to
everyone. I can't see the numbers up high. If I feel them I will
know what they are. I feel caught in a mysterious maze. The
familiar becomes unfamiliar. I couldn't find you. I had to ask
for directions to find your room. I became lost and frightened.''
The researcher concluded that C is now more conscious of
the intricate process that happens in her internal reality,
intimately affecting her outside reality by blocking the
expression of her natural self. This blocking prevents her
from initiating and sustaining meaningful connections with
herself and others.
Note: In retrospect, it is seen that what at first what was
thought to be a true autonomous choice may have been in fact,
less. So, as she was also frightened to show up late to see
G. Nevertheless - with respect to the analysis of
synchronistic happenings - this session marked a major shift in
this patient's consciousness as she was finally able to get
outside her material by cathecting experientially that which
she is really up against. (Soldiers in battle may be killed
if exposed but, while still alive they are better off knowing
the size, position, and other salient details of the enemy
than being blanketed by an omnipresent fog.)
A Second Example: Pre-synchronicity Consciousness Of A Patient Struggling
To Maintain A Cohesive Sense Of Himself.
D's present situational context has to do with his heretofore attitudes
about disappointing others versus himself As his identity has been based on
others opinion of him, the idea, let alone the act of disappointing important
people, has been a potential threat to his self-esteem.
This has been so because D has equated disappointment with withdrawal of
love. And withdrawal of love, by a love object, has been experienced as a loss
of his own identity. It is as if he has felt that without a continuing experience
of at-one-ment with the love object of the moment he would quite literally die of a
broken heart. Therefore, whenever disappointment has entered the picture, D
has tried to avoid directly dealing with it at all cost. At such 'danger points'
he has tended to break connections literally by leaving the scene or by cutting off his
feelings.
D's disappointment allergy is a symptom of an inability to regulate his
self-esteem - that is, it is virtually impossible for him at the present time to
experience himself as his own final authority. To grow a cohesive self he must
first experience himself as worthy to have one. D, aware of his problem,
describes his therapeutic task in the following way. ''To have self-worth, I
have to trust myself or I choose on the basis of avoiding a lesser fear than a
greater fear - the fear of abandonment or fear of hurting someone I love.''
Everything is now up for grabs as the first assumptions about his core
attitudes have been successfully challenged in his therapy resulting in
his facing those feelings he automatically avoided. But, in squarely
facing them at present, he feels trapped between untenable alternatives.
D reacts to these feelings of entrapment with intense frustration. The
frustration stirs anger which in turn is turned back on himself culminating
in feelings of depression, depletion, futility, and low self-esteem. It is
as if he is surrounded by a psychological wall that bars him from moving in
any direction: foreword, backwards, sideways, or even remaining in idle.
This fundamental stuckness may be thought of as psychological grid - lock
equivalent to Jung's concept of debaisement. For D to stay or to leave,
threatens him with a loss of identity. Thus perched midway between the untenable
past and a fear of the unknown future, D is in the midst of what might be
referred to as a BB experience (the mid point of a creative process of
psychological transformation.
(see diagram 3)
D's Synchronicity
''Now comes a situation where I am forced to be disappointing.''
D's Reaction to This Synchronicity
D is impressed how life conspires to present material
that is absolutely on mark with respect to the psychological
issue at hand, ''as if fate were constantly presenting tests
in the great laboratory of real life.... Life seems to arrange
for pertinent events to occur. Last session I could have had
potentially disappointing news. The difference is that instead
of us talking about it in the abstract it now becomes a very
real vital event.''
I asked him his reaction to this and
other synchronous events. He said it was acknowledgment of
some of the messiness of life. He is interested in not so
much how they arrive but what can be learned from them. In
this case he feels he has to make a choice. But why now?
''we create in our own lives what we need . . .I needed to
understand this more and come to terms with it- and will
continue to until I face it and move through it or I
won't progress.''
Discussion: Parallels in the Presynchronicity Consciousness of the Two Examples
Contextual analysis of the presynchronicity consciousness of the
two examples C and D reveal parallel contexts. Both
C and D found themselves caught on the horns of an
unsolvable dilemma - irretrievably stuck in the middle of a
binary lock, causing each of them intense personal distress.
These conflicts are experienced as deadlocks {existential facts of life}
because each and every conceived of alternative solution feels inadequate to
resolve the problem of the moment. Thus C and D both felt squeezed between
the vice of what appeared to be two mutually exclusive attitudes, ideas,
fantasies, actions. It is as if each person was a hero in a movie serial who
suddenly finds himself in a steel chamber with no visible way out. Bad enough
he is trapped. Worse is when the walls start to implode threatening the hero
with death by crushing.
Both C and D initially experience the deadlock with a
sense of helplessness and hopelessness. In preoedipal consciousness
this feeling is one of despair, perhaps best thought of as a zero point.
What in inner space is referred to as a stuck point or psychological
zero point might in speculating about the nature of outer space be
parallel to the concept of a black hole. It is not unusual for people
experiencing the zero point (such as C and D) to imagine
they are going to implode leading to catastrophic annihilation. (Jung's
debaisement.)
The Stuck Point: Psychological Grid Lock
There are essentially two different and opposing attitudes people have with respect
to being stuck between two apparently mutually exclusive feelings, ideas, principles,
etc. One is despairing - and giving up - waiting to be rescued; the other is hope
affirming - holding firm - pro actively wishing to find some creative way out of the
apparent deadlock.
The fact of a passive or active attitude to the perceived zero point has important
ramifications with respect to the production of meaningful coincidences. While
psychological grid lock is a necessary condition for the production of meaningful
coincidences, it is this researcher's observation that it is not a sufficient condition.
For a meaningful condition to arise out of psychological grid lock there must at some
point in the process a pro active attitude to find some novel solution to the seemingly unresolveable stuck point. This means, that while the subject may initially - and for a long time after- be in the grips of despair, believing he is a victim of crushing forces beyond his control (passive attitude), only, if and when there is an active wish to initiate a process to change the deadlock, will a synchronicity occur.
Summary:
While all synchronicities examined by the researcher are embedded in contexts in which
the subject experiences him/herself as hopelessly trapped in the middle of two seemingly mutually exclusive binaries, there are two fundamental attitudes to this state of affairs. The first attitudinal reaction is usually one of depression and passivity. The second attitudinal reaction is a combination of depression and passivity shifting sooner or latter into an active wish to find a way out of the deadlock at all costs. Thus combined response to a state of psychic imbalance is to initiate a process whereby balance can be restored. This process is characterized by a proactive attempt to problem solve. I believe that this mixture of basic stuckness experienced as depression combined with a proactive wish to find an adequate freeing solution is the psychological soil from which synchronicities flower.
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