Significant Psychological Change is like Climbing
Mountains
in Inner Space
Conditions associated with a person becoming a
patient.
Each person has his own sense of
normal. When this sense of normal is upset there is a felt need to
regain the preferred sense of balance. {Homeostasis} Most of the
time this happens quite naturally. However there are times of great
stress when the imbalance cannot so easily be reordered. The
predictable ebb and flow of life's vicissitudes induces a ratio of
pleasurable / painful experiences. People become patients at a point
when the ratio of pain to pleasure markedly shifts to the painful
side and seems impervious to attempts to rebalance it.
A Pre-condition for
Significant Psychological Change is a Good Match Between Patient and
Therapist.
As in all complex relationships combining science
and art,the criteria for success in large measure is dependent on
the best possible match between therapist and patient. Experience
bears out the fact that the most successful relationships are those
that are characterized as mutually attuned - resonant. The patient
must feel he or she is unconditionally accepted, and in good hands.
The therapist must feel he or she is connected with the perceived
essence of the new patient and feels challenged and committed to the
treatment.
The common denominator in
all mental illness is the suffering person who volunteers to come to
a particular person for professional help. The patient feels caught
up in forces beyond his control which are overwhelmingly painful and
seemingly unrelated to any conscious cause and effect logic. These
forces appear to have a life of their own which the will can do
little to effect. Additionally they are, at one and the same time,
as real as a puss-filled wound and yet as mysterious and invisible
as electricity.
The new patient seeks cure
or at least relief of his psychic agony. He hopes the Doctor has the
answer to what has eluded his best efforts to ameliorate. Thus
seeking cure at best,or at least relief of his agonizing symptoms,
it is common for the majority of new patients to bring to treatment
an expectation that the healer is possessed of magical powers that
is hoped will be used to the patient's great advantage.
The first page of every
book on technique indicates that the therapist is to explain to the
new patient that he is not a magician and that treatment is
therefore not magical. Then once the therapy commences it is further
said that most new patients will try to convince both themselves and
the analyst that this disclaimer is not true.
The therapist,if truly
objective, freely admits his own personal bias and limits when it
comes to his understanding the nature of the particularities of the
patient's symptoms and of the particular theory which he uses to
make sense of the patient's raw data. He is also willing to admit
his prejudices when it comes to selecting a set of techniques which
he hopes will eventually result in valued significant psychological
changes in the patient.
The selection of a
particular theoretical point of view and derived techniques comes
out of the total personal experience of the therapist, how could it
be otherwise? In all cases, whether the therapist is serious or
glib, complex or superficial, careful or careless he will make
choices with respect to his theoretical understanding and practical
intervention according to the laws of his nature. Therapists differ
from one another on a continuum from settling for mere rote on the
one hand versus an attitude of ceaseless questing for quality
responding on the other. The same goes for the patient. The more a
patient works on himself the more he or she is likely to derive from
their therapy experience. Put a lot in, get a lot back.
While the Doctor has his
theories and techniques, the patient has his too. It is out of
mutual respect for the understandings of both Dr. and patient,
expressed in the open free dialogue and search for the truth, that
the outcome eventually will be decided.
What begins in mystery for
both the therapist and the patient should over time become gradually
clearer. Over time too, with increasing understanding of the
patient's unique 'logic of experience,' there will be small but
cumulative changes. If the process works for the patient, the
patient will clearly come to appreciate its substantial and
cumulative power. The patient comes to appreciate that change is
clearly a result of the treatment process which, in the final
analysis, might be considered to be an extended dialogue of shared
experience focused on trying always to understand the patient in
depth and breadth. There is a felt sense of something of importance
happening. In my experience significant psychological change is
possible but it is slow in coming. And in all cases when it is
substantial change, the patient feels as if they have truly been in
the most strenuous and protracted struggle of their lives.
The Readiness to
Change
Another pre condition for significant psychological
change is the key factor of readiness. No one can force anyone to
change. No matter how brilliant, clever, experienced, loving and the
like a given therapist is, they are unable by themselves to change
any patient. To change, the patient must be willing and ready to
change. In this light, you can bring a psychological horse to water
but you can't make him or her drink.
Research on
synchronicities
{characterized by quintessential stuck points}demonstrates that
change occurs when a person stuck, in what is experienced as an
intractable dilemma, shifts their attitude from wishing to be
passively rescued {magical intervention}, to an attitude of positive
commitment, taking on what ever action is necessary to alter the
present set of unacceptable conditions. It is in this state of
readiness - I call the realm of possibilities - that a person is
most alert to the presence of both internal and external signals
signifying potentially beneficial opportunities.
My analyst once said " the
despair about changing is a life long battle between self interest
versus regression (an id resistance). Growth takes {as Jefferson
said about democracy} "eternal vigilance" and honesty with the self.
To change takes effort. You have to be clear about which direction
you are headed: north or south; adulthood or childhood? To change
means to stop acting like a child."
How Change Looks From
the Outside In
A Psychoanalytic Criteria for Assessing
Psychological Change
Personal Communication with Frank
Lachmann, Ph.D.
1 The Relation
Itself - between therapist patient. It's unique focusing on the
person in an accepting way in the spirit of an alliance {doing
something with the patient and avoiding a manipulation of compliance
in which the therapist does something to the patient.}
2 Transference
Analysis - The patient brings distortion (in the here and now)
into sharp relief. Seeing things in this way provides new
information resulting in a new way of perceiving the self, the
therapist, and the past (i.e. seeing one's parents associated and
colored by various developmental phases.)
3 A New View of
Childhood - Enables one to see themselves in a new light.{
Examples: In objectively viewing reality the patient may come to see
that it was easier to split himself up thereby diminishing his
realistic powers rather than have access to all of his powers but
feel a crushing sense of depression correctly acknowledging the
terror, and horrendous sense of isolation that is associated with
being hated and abused.}
4 The possibility of
redoing the past - in the transference with the therapist that
is in turning passivity into activity in the service of ego mastery.
5 Releasing
Developmental Restriction - (undoing fixations)
Change as Steps in a
Process: Selected Raw Data of Experience Processed Through
Psychological Structures
1. A balance that has been
upset initiates a felt need to restore the balance. (The following
story will illustrate the above).
...Two fish heard that a
great man who could perform miracles was in a certain place. They
swam to the brook where he was instructing a crowd of people and
swam near to him. They saw him come to the water's edge, scoop some
into his hands and say how water was a great creation of God. It was
cleansing, purifying, essential for life. It was in fact God's
greatest gift. The fish touched by the teaching looked at each other
and both said: I wish we could find some water.
"If one knows the laws of
nature - he is able to change the environment (atmosphere) and
rearrange the context." {Clifford Bias}
2. There has to be a shift
from a passive wish for rescue, in the form of magic, a break, etc.
to a commitment to actively searching for a way to restore the
imbalance. This part of the process might be conceived as a state of
readiness (on your mark, get set) and release (go).
Change
often involves a reconstruction, rearrangement, and/or a
recombination of elements into a new gestalt or
synthesis.
The tarot cards may be thought of
as organizing images (concepts) which are used to interpret raw data
of experience. The operational definition of interpretation is
joining (linking together) unconscious (seemingly random feelings,
peripheral marginal thoughts, sensations, intuitions, by means of
words so they become crystallized thereby available for conscious
reflection.
Two Types of
Patients
There are essentially two types of patients seeking
psychological treatment.
(l) those seeking to
minimize their pain and
(2) those seeking to
maximize their pleasure. The first group typically feels as if they
are drowning in an ocean of intense feelings and emotions. Change
for them means to be able to find a way to survive. The second group
can survive but for them it as if they were in a forever circling
row boat unable to stake out and follow a specific direction. Change
for them is harnessing their powers, allying it with their will and
directing it towards the attainment of meaningful challenges.
Building a Container:
The Creation of a Cohesive Self - From Reactive to acting from
within - Being Precedes Doing
Creating personal order out of
one's idiosyncratic chaos is a process of consciously and
unconsciously straining content through the sieve of structure.
For those who lack
structure, significant change for them is the construction of
structure. Structure in this light is what is known as the cohesive
self. The operational definition of a cohesive self is something
solid at the core of one's being that is felt to endure in the midst
of internal and external confusion.
Significant change in the
form of palpable structure spontaneously comes about to the degree
to which the patient is induced to bear increasing dosages of
frustrations and other so called negative (and sometimes positive) affects.
Changing The Awareness
of Content: Making the Unconscious Conscious
Significant
psychological change in therapy comes about when a patient is able
to experience that which has previously been repressed {forgotten}.
Once the unconscious is made conscious - the patient then can choose
to act out the once repressed feelings, or suppress them. For
example before a patient had knowledge of the scope of his feelings
he used to cringe when a surly shop-keeper was hostile to him. Feeling
attacked, instead of panicing and withdrawing; he instead, experienced a
mixture of wonder and anger,plus a new found ability to hold his ground.
In this new psychological frame of mind he challenged the store owner by
asking him a pointed organizing question:"Is that an observation or
a criticism?"
Making Significant
Psychological Changes is Hard Work
The reason why a person
becomes a patient is often do to a reawakening of traumatic
unresolved childhood conflicts. This comes about when a traumatic
event in the present, emotionally parallel to the past trauma,
threatens to overwhelm the system. When this happens it is often
experienced as a psychological short-circuiting the
patient's normal routine. This is the state of mind that is commonly
referred to as a 'nervous breakdown.' Changing this altered state of
consciousness is often like the following example.
Imagine you are a carefree
centipede moving your way down the street. Suddenly a gust of wind
blows a piece of wood from off a rooftop delivers a glancing blow to
your head. You are shocked for a while then realize you have been hit.
As you regain your senses you find that you have forgotten how to walk.
You have the unenviable task of relearning how to coordinate all 100 legs
in just the right way, a behavior that before the trauma had been taken
for granted.
Similarly a person
suffering a trauma may find themselves having to completely reorient
themselves to both themselves and external reality. In such a state
there is commonly experienced much confusion, insecurity,
vulnerability, fears, anxieties, and other intensely painful
feelings.
Subtle Processes in the
Phenomenology of Psychological Change
Note the following quotation of William James on extending his consciousness.
"What happened each time was that I seemed all at once to be reminded of
a past experience; and this reminiscence ere I could conceive or name
it distinctly, developed into something further that belonged with
it, this in turn into something further still, and so on, until the
process faded out leaving me amazed at the sudden vision of
increasing ranges of distant fact of which I could give no
articulate account... There was a strongly exciting sense that my
knowledge of past (or present) reality was enlarging pulse by pulse,
but so rapidly that my intellectual process could not keep up the
pace. The content was thus entirely lost to introspection - it sank
into the limbo into which dreams vanish as we gradually awake. The
feeling- I won't call it belief - that I had a sudden opening - had
seen through a window, as it were, distant realities that
incomprehensibly belonged with my own life was so acute that I
cannot shake it today."
Colin Wilson says James is
describing Faculty X which allowed James and others to get on top of
the mountain and see his life from a whole perspective instead of
from just a worm's eye view. T.S.Elliot calls this: " the
intersection of the timeless moment."
In this view - significant
change involves a re vision of the past in terms of the acquisition
of present knowledge. In other words - significant psychological
change as viewed in psychotherapeutic terms means to work through
the fog of transference reactions. Transference means viewing the
present in terms of the past resulting in either an overly positive
or negative perception of a person, place or thing. Crucial in this
formulation is that the process of confusing the present and the
past is initially unconscious {not verbalized}.
For example: to over
idealize or to abandon hope are two states of consciousness that are
equally without foundation. Both are illusions.
Ironies Associated with
Significant Psychological Change
For many patients there are
complex dilemmas that present daunting challenges to be mastered.
For example:
(l) A precondition for
effective analysis is that the patient must trust the therapist.
This is so because sooner or later, the therapist being human, there
are bound to be inevitable disappointments, misunderstandings, and
the likes. At such critical points in the treatment these glitches
are likely to be experienced as major impasses. Unless there is a
sense of good will flowing both ways in the treatment atmosphere it
will be virtually impossible for the patient and the therapist to
tolerate the often intense feelings accompanying these stuck points.
Thus what might be done to effectively engage a patient in
potentially effective psychotherapy whose core problem is one of
major distrust?
(2) If a patient feels
that he has no limits and hates the experience of being pinned down
how is he ever to continue to be meaningfully engaged in a treatment
process which by it very nature is frustrating and imposes realistic
limits? These limits consist of meeting an agreed upon schedule of
two to three sessions a week; and agreeing to a request that the
patient attempt always to say exactly what is on his mind;meaning,
speak his truth no matter what anxieties, fears, shame, guilt, and
the likes it might initially induce.
(3) If you need to be able
to tolerate frustration, to enable the ego to grow and make informed
objective decisions but cannot tolerate frustration how can you hope
to be able to have a strong objective ego?
(4) If adult gratification
lies in directing libido outward to some love object, but you are too
self absorbed to freely give of yourself, how is it possible to
love?
If a spinning top becomes
consciously aware of endlessly revolving in a circular orbit and
wants to seek a unified direction it would first have to come to a
complete halt.
"In Between black and
white are not shades of gray, but are colors." (R.Wittenberg)
How Significant Psychological Change Is Often Experienced
as it is Happening
Developing a cohesive
self is like learning any new skill. First you have to identify
problems and sub problems. You need to become aware of bad habits
(patterns of behavior and maladaptive attitudes) which have their
origins in unresolved problems of childhood that get automatically
played out in seemingly endless theme and variations. Gradually the
habitual stimulus - response causal links have to be interfered
with, replaced with new, stronger links. One has to be able to dare
to try out new behaviors, systematically reinforcing the ones that
work well until they in turn become automatic. This process follows
the laws for the learning curve: an initial growth spurt, plateau,
regression, scratch and itch, growth spurt etc. This learning
process is facilitated by a positive working alliance between the
therapist and the patient.
Over and over, session by
session, the same sequences occur providing accumulating knowledge
of the way the patient habitually reacts to a variety of stimuli.
Each session is geared, then, to giving the patient and the therapist
a small but significant increase in their combined knowledge of what
makes the patient tick - that is deepening their knowledge of the
idiosyncratic psychodynamics that constitute the patient's
experiential logic.Gradual understanding of the ways in which a
patient functions as a complex total individual,often results in inducing
significant change.
When significant
psychological change occurs what has seemed almost impossible to do,
sometime for years on end, suddenly appears to be done seamlessly.
When this happens - it is a sure indicator of the presence of
significant psychological change.
It is quite common to
signal significant psychological change by what is referred to as
a pendulum reaction. What is to be changed (e.g. an unwanted
attitude or behavior) initially is often felt to be extreme. For
example, a hyper conflict averse patient may predictably space out
at the first sign of rising anger directed towards someone. As
progress is made in understanding the reasons for this gross
suppression of natural instincts, the person is likely to swing way
over to the other direction. Thus it is not unusual for a patient
struggling to overcome a strong aggression inhibition, to one day 'let
it all hang out' telling someone off' who provoked them, even if the
degree of provocation does not objectively merit an overly extreme
reaction. However, typically, sooner than later, the pendulum finds
a balance point.
Significant change
involves a shift in perception. Data that was interpreted one way
before a change occurs is often interpreted from multiple
perspectives once the shift in perception has occurred.
For example: a patient who
was initially afraid to express his vivid imagination before
treatment, could only come to the conclusion that 1 + 1 = 2. As his '
imagination anxiety' reduced he was able to permit himself to
play with his now unsuppressed imagination. Thus he was able to
additionally view 1+ 1 as 11 and / or 1+1 = 3 {as in Hegelian
dialectic wherein a thesis + an antithesis = a new synthesis}.
Changing Often Feels
Exciting
Changing often feels exciting is clearly conveyed by
B.White and H.White in an article in the New York Post "The
Excitement of Change" explaining how great art works to induce
significant changes in viewers.
"Great artists are not
just people with skills They are people who have the courage to
convey very private messages about themselves. They are people who
dare to risk a hostile response from stranger and friend ... The
throngs of people who respond to the work of Rembrandt ... or
Beethoven indicate that the private feelings which these great
artists are able to call forth are almost universally present in
other human beings . The work of art touches the heart, and the
viewer or listener may find his life enriched without all together
knowing why.
The artist articulates in
his medium that which is preconscious - it is like a good analytic
interpretation that joins together two or more associations and
finds a common denominator thereby evoking a new meaning which
allows what was once a chaotic and nonsensical to reappear ordered
and sensible. Old disconnected material is viewed in a new connected
alive way."
Significant
Psychological Change and Surprise
Significant psychological
changes often occur at times in treatment in which the patient has
experienced some unexpected event that by definition completely
takes him by surprise. Further that the nature of the surprise is
one that has dramatic and lasting impact on the patient. In all
cases the patient sees the same reality data from an entirely
different and illuminating perspective.
One such time was when I
was once again despairing that I would never be able to learn to
bear frustration at times when it was clearly in my best interest to
do so. I said to my analyst that "asking me to change in this area
is like telling me to change my breathing." He paused, sat back, put
his hand on his chin and said: "But Yogi's change their breathing."
The message was that the key to change is reality testing. Thus it
follows: " there is a distinction to be made between speculation and
real associations. That is that even the strongest feelings and
expressions about reality are not necessarily equivalent to the
objective truth about reality. The key to unraveling neurosis is
recalling memories that have been repressed so they can be given
up." {Dr.Rudolf Wittenberg - personal communication}.
Freud on Change in
Analysis
"Where id and superego are, ego will be."
The end of a successful
analysis is when the patient can convert neurotic suffering for the
acceptance of everyday common misery.(paraphrasing Freud)
"The patient is in need of
an experience not an explanation." (Freida Fromm Reichman)
"The patient is in need of
an experience and an explanation." (Gibbs A. Williams)
Significant psychological
change involves a change in perception of the data at hand. In this
view it is a kind of Rashomoning of experience or in John Dewey's
terms a reconstruction of experience. Note the following story for
the inferred conditions preceding a potential shift in perception.
...Two fish heard that a
great man who could perform miracles was in a certain place. They
swam to the brook where he was instructing a crowd of people and
swam near to him. They saw him come to the water's edge, scoop some
into his hands and say how water was a great creation of God. It was
cleansing, purifying, essential for life. It was in fact God's
greatest gift. The fish touched by the teaching looked at each other
and both said: I wish we could find some water.
The Experience of
Significant Change and War
It is common for people in the
middle of long term treatment to complain (understandably) that they
feel worse rather than better. There are many reasons for this
predictable set of affairs. Significant change happens by means of
understanding but understanding takes a long time to happen. In long
term analysis one of the crucial themes to be understood is the
history surrounding the patient's need to split their experience of
reality, unwittingly initiating their psychological illness. When
the pain of realistic limitations (both internal and external)
threatens to overwhelm the self - one means of keeping the system
functioning {sheer survival} is to split experience - separating
feelings from thoughts and/or eliminating one or the other from
awareness. This muting of experience has the effect of dulling or
blocking out psychic pain. While this defensive action does in fact
accomplish its goal, it creates more problems than it solves. Thus,
Zombies may be said to function but are clearly ineffectual human
beings.
Understanding this state
of affairs occurs at a point in treatment when a given patient is
capable of standing their ground, so to speak, facing up to rather
than retreating from the pain associated with their heretofore
overwhelming internal and external realities. But facing rather than
retreating means that they have to experience (often for the first
time in their lives) the full brunt of the pain that the retreat
from reality was utilized to avoid. Thus treatment at this point is
often experienced as if the patient was in a kill or be killed war
zone - in which his life is on the line every moment. Furthermore,
what characterizes the atmosphere of this war zone is little hope
for a major breakthrough - like the dropping of the Atom bomb
hastening the end of World War II. Instead, what characterizes the
nature of the therapeutic war with the self is more akin to the
trench warfare of World War I. - twenty trenches ahead, followed by
eight trenches in retreat and so on.
Significant change is
experienced at this point as if the trucks of war were slogging
through mud - or that the patient is tunneling a road through a
mountain of granite. Change is measured in small but cumulative
increments. When small increments of step by step, meaningful
connection by meaningful connection forges links of cause and effect
chains that cumulate in an understanding of idiosyncratic
psychodynamics, eventually there does come a synthesis of the
personality. Just before the shift occurs between situation usual -
nothing significantly different seemingly happening - versus, situation
definitively different and better - it is apt to say that the patient's
experience of the whole sweep of his therapy is often full of doubt
as to its overall efficacy. But that once getting over the hump and
experiencing significant psychological change in a direction that
the patient has longed to acquire - the doubt turns into conviction
and the whole sweep of the therapy is aptly experienced as 'it is
darkest before the dawn.' Persistence wins the day but no
therapeutic victory worth the title is ever accomplished without the
patient deeply engaged in an all out battle with themselves
struggling with struggle.
Significant
Psychological Change is
like Climbing Mountains in Inner
Space
The process of therapy as like mountain climbing
generally begins with high energy and an all out commitment often
taking the form of a rapid thrust upwards. But sooner than later
there is experienced the first of many inevitable glitches. The
patient stalls or plateaus. One may become discouraged and retreat
to the base camp. Perhaps there is a regrouping and beginning once
again. The journey is never straight up as resistance dogs the way.
Progress in analysis is like the learning curve: ten steps up, seven
back, stall, climb, resist, regress, up again and the likes.
Additionally the higher you climb the more rarified the air.
Persistence wins the day. {Personal communication: Dr. Rudolf
Wittenberg}